I've been noticing some difficulty with my vision for several months now. Reading has become a problem for me, and sharing a hymnal with my husband while we are standing to sing in church is near impossible. He brings the hymnal closer, and I gently push it back. I notice holding things at arm's length to make the print more crisp. Ahhh, the joys of turning 40!
One day last week after we dropped Autumn off at work, Abigail and I stopped at Wal*Mart. As I tried on +1 reading glasses, I also began to get a headache. None of the less expensive glasses felt good at all, and I didn't want to pay $20 or more for something that wasn't right for my eyes. It was at this point that I decided to walk over to the vision center to see if they had any openings for an exam. And they fit me right in.
Within the hour my exam was finished, and the doctor explained to me that the +1 reading glasses were giving me a headache because my eyes aren't the same. And I have an astigmatism, which I already knew. He wrote a prescription for me and I walked next door to have it filled. Obviously, this was all very spur of the moment.
Fast forward to Saturday. I was sitting in Quilt Club when I received a text message from my husband saying that my glasses were ready to be picked up. The girls and I headed over when we finished our meeting. I wore the glasses that night while working on a new quilt, and Autumn snapped my photo and placed it on Facebook. I wore the glasses to church on Sunday, too. While I could definitely see better than I had been able to over the past few months, I was in sheer misery because of the glare on the glasses. I prayed that I would get used to it, but by Sunday evening, I was ready to throw in the towel. I wondered if they could add the anti-reflective coating to the lenses as an afterthought, and promised myself to call the next morning.
Monday morning my phone rang. It was a friend of mine. She had seen my photo on Facebook, and wondered if she could ask me a question. "Sure!", I replied.
Sometimes I'm just plain dense, let me tell you.
My friend's voice was shaking as she gathered up her nerve. "Well, I noticed that you got new glasses, and I was wondering why you didn't use our service?"
I wanted to crawl in a hole.
My friend's husband is an optician. He owns his own business, and in this economy they need every customer they can get. She was sweet, not accusatory, and I could tell that it took every ounce of courage that she had to call me.
I apologized profusely, and explained that I certainly didn't choose to not support their family business, but it was an oversight. I had never intended to buy prescription glasses the day that I did. I was already in Wal*Mart, it was easy, and I never gave her husband a thought. Thankfully, she understood.
I was so embarrassed, and I felt like such a hypocrite. I'm constantly making decisions about who to buy our food from, preferring local over trucked in from across the United States or worse yet another country. I look at clothing tags and try to avoid anything made in China. I'm picky about everything but my glasses. Why was that?
I just didn't think, and because of that, I hurt a friend.
I told my friend about the dilemma with the glare on my glasses, and after we hung up, I called my husband. He told me to call Wal*Mart, and check out their return policy, which I promptly did. Providentially, they have a 60 day return policy with a full refund, no questions asked.
I'm so very thankful that my friend had the courage to call me. I can tell you from past experience that it's so much better to lovingly confront a sister/ brother in Christ whether they have sinned, or just hurt your feelings than to let those feelings turn to anger and then bitterness. I commended her for making the phone call, and reassured her that it was the right thing to do. Had she not called, I would have been in the dark, and never given it a thought. Truly, I'm so happy that she thought enough of me to not let bitterness and hurt feelings wear our relationship down, but brought me into the light where I could see my mistakes and correct them. That, is a true friend.
Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Colossians 3:12-17 (ESV)